Relationships and Dating: Why do couples break up ? II

Last time we looked at why good relationships end. It still fascinates me how two lovers grow apart yet they start off really well.

It happens, but I only wish I had the ability to tell them that it’s never that serious; most times. There are times, few times, when it’s serious enough to end a relationship. I would like to give pointers on what ends relationships so that you avoid such things and learn how to deal with them early enough. Luckily couples learn how to cope with different difficulties and make it out STRONGER! Always stay positive.

3. Different values in life

This might seem like a trivial matter at the beginning of a new relationship but it later comes to haunt a couple later on in their relationship. What with all the emotion running through one’s mind when they have their new found love. When you are with someone, the rush is unstoppable! Your love is unbreakable! In a long term relationship, shared values hold a lot of weight. You need to be on the same page on a lot of things.

For example, one person might be looking forward to having a family but the other might be hesitant. One might value career over family and the other, vice versa. It can be challenging to get over some of these different stands in life. Any loving couple should be in harmony; if not each should be willing to compromise. You might see a lot of things in different perspectives but it’s important to see eye to eye when it comes to the MAJOR DECISIONS. I’m talking about finances, family and faith. Differences in personalities should not be a deal breaker but values should meet at some point.

4. Different lifestyle

Sure, we cannot all be similar. Sometimes, you want to go out but your significant other does not; and that’s okay. Once in a while you might allow your partner to go out. In this situation, your trust has to be firm and steady. Anyway, that’s beside the point. Sometimes, couples find themselves in situations where one loves being frivolous when it comes to going out. He/she might be out every day. The other might prefer staying at home and is a bit easy with the spending. At first it’s all good but later on, it might be crucial to talk about your different lifestyle habits and how to compromise so that each partner feels respected.

If you don’t acknowledge your different habits, it’s a recipe for disaster. It might cause feelings of insecurity and frustration. You might be thinking your partner is okay with your habits but they are not. You might also assume your partner knows you don’t like their behavior but they don’t. Talk about what you feel so that you don’t resent your partner every time he or she engages in the habit you don’t like. Come to a compromise. Otherwise, it will end up in you splitting.

In the next article, we will talk about other things that can end a relationship. Hope this helped!