Relationships and dating : Why do couples break up ? III

Let’s continue from where we stopped last time. We have been looking at what causes relationships to come to a halt. A lot of times, the instinct to give up is stronger than the will to fight. Why do we all prefer the easy road? Something small happens and we think about the worst case scenario. You would be surprised at the transformation in your relationship if you thought about the best case scenario. Think positively about your partner and your relationship; I cannot stress this enough. Think about it, do old couples disagree? It’s a resounding YES! How they think is quite different. They think positive.

Think about this also, would you love it if you were away from your girl or man just because your friends tell you all the negative things about your relationship. Sometimes, you just need to ignore everything they say and make changes to your relationship. It’s that simple. Your friends are never going to completely understand how your heart feels. There are times they are right but your heart is right ALL THE TIME! Trust your heart!

5. Thinking of someone else all the time

It happens. Sometimes, couples find they are thinking of other people; to the extent that they prefer spending time with the ‘other person’ over their partners. Most people find themselves in this situation simply because they never took time to think before getting into their current relationships. It could also be that they were never even attracted to each other in the first place.

Either way this is not a good sign. If it is subtle, you can get over it. Men might think about other women physically but it shouldn’t be a reason to cheat or leave their girlfriends or wives. Get over it and love your woman. Didn’t they tell you? The grass is NEVER greener on the other side. It seems like it is but it’s never.

Don’t leave your girl or man for someone you think might be better. Don’t leave the one you love for the one you like. It doesn’t work. It is preferable you separate on other terms but not infatuation to someone else.

However, if the feelings toward someone else are too overwhelming and you feel you won’t be missing moments with your current lover, talk about it and consider taking a break for some time. You don’t want to live your life thinking of the one that got away.

6. If someone brings out the worst in you

I see this happen a lot. You find love and in the initial stage, everything seems excellent. After some time, you are at your worst. You even ask yourself what happened to you. You are always grumpy and never happy. You don’t feel like you can conquer the world. A good relationship should make you feel like you can conquer the world. It should make you feel unstoppable! It should make you feel like you are willing to do anything for your munchkin.

A loving relationship should make you feel like you are in charge of your own destiny no matter what people say. People say a lot of things; probably in an attempt to address their own insecurities. If your partner does not make you feel like you are at your best, reevaluate your relationship. Maybe something needs adjusting. If it cannot be repaired, talk to a counselor. If things cannot be fixed, take time apart.