6 must haves in any relationship

So, we have looked at some of the major aspects that MUST be in a healthy relationship. If you have not been a staunch advocate for the principles we have talked about, you can still change. People are CAPABLE OF CHANGE. It is possible and it can be done!

More often than not, you just need to hold your lover’s hand and look deep into their eyes and apologize for ill-treating him/her, then make a conscious decision to treat him/her right. If you love each other it is easy to mend any disconnect you have been experiencing.

So here are a few questions you can ask yourself so that you can evaluate your relationship:

   1. Do you handle disagreements and conflicts without threatening each other?
If yes, you are on the right path. If not, you just need to talk about how you want to handle disagreements before they happen. That way, when they happen, you will both be on common ground

   2. Do you occasionally have fun? Have a laugh?

Life is one hurdle after the other. It is conquering one milestone and embarking on the next. Now, if you were to put all your focus always on the next big thing, you can lose yourself in your job or business. Having fun with your partner does not necessarily mean taking a trip in the middle of a work day. You don’t want a situation where you get fired or lose your clients, now do you?

You can have fun talking, walking, having dinner, lunch, playing, or even jogging. The important thing here is to have a laugh. No one deserves NOT TO LAUGH. Laugh once in a while and watch what happens next. You will forget about all the negative thoughts and feelings and you will feel rejuvenated to work even harder.

   3. Do you think about him/her when you are not together?

This is pretty straightforward. It takes loving thoughts to show loving actions. If you are always thinking about strangling your partner, things are NOT GOOD! You would rather leave such a relationship or talk to someone you can trust about how you feel, preferably a specialist.

4.    Do you kiss every day?

No, seriously, do you? Kissing is a form of affection. Affection is one way of affirming you love your partner. It is a simple and elegant way of showing how much you are attracted to someone and how much you value them. If you haven’t been kissing the missus or you haven’t been kissing him, get on it! ASAP. Make sure it’s sweet, loving and unexpected! Watch his/her reaction.

   5.    Are you both satisfied, sexually?

Intimacy is an essential component of a fulfilling relationship. It shouldn’t just feel physical, but it should also feel like a connection to another level. It should feel sweet and none of the partners should feel used. Cuddle after.

   6.    Do you feel special?

Have you ever been in a relationship where you feel like your lover’s friends are closer to him/her than you are? A healthy relationship is one in which you don’t feel like you are competing for your lover’s attention with his/her friends. In fact, if you are in a healthy relationship you should respect the other person’s close association with friends but never feel bad about them. Talk about it.